Do you want a Rose that has been dipped is pesticide or one that is naturally beautiful and grown in your own state? We interviewed Josef Reiter, the owner of Botanica Floral Design and talked about the difference between flowers grown in Portland or in your home town vs the ones that are imported into our country, which most are.

Do you actually know the process that flowers go through before you buy them at a supermarket and at many Floral shops? You will after this show and you will not want to buy certain types of flowers again.

Whether it was Relational Aggression, Cyberbullying or what is working in schools to combat Bullying and what is not, we talked about it. The State of Oregon has their policies in place but are they really helping? Bullying is a problem in our schools, but you will find out it’s not the only place to fix it. We leave you with tools and resources to help your children what can be a very difficult time.

Jennifer Niesslein, co-founder of Brain, Child Magazine joined us to talk about some of the great stories they have put out over the last 12 years. Whether they are light and fun pieces or others dealing with Anorexia, Brain, Child Magazine creates a stimulating magazine every month that is worth it’s weight in gold to all parents. There is a reason that they call it the magazine for thinking mothers.

Todd Adams of Zen Parenting did not agree with this as an idea. But what the hell does he know? He’s raising kids in Chicago for crying out loud! I kid because I care. I went to school in Chicago and Todd is a very knowledgeable parent. In fact, more should listen to him.

The objective of this idea is to create awareness around losing your temper. If you have one, then you know. When you lose it, you usually don’t know how bad you did. You flip your lid. I have never really realized how loud I get or how mean I may be. Now the deal is, anyone in the family can call you out on it. To you it may not appear like a temper burst, but if someone calls you on it, then you have to pay the piper.

So, what is this teaching us?

Todd Adams, thinks this will teach kids to stuff their emotions. If he is right, then I should be awarded the Crappiest Parent of the Year award because stuffing emotions is what I learned to do most of my life. So his point could be very valid, because often we only copy what was done to us. However, I don’t think it will create that. I want to teach my kids about responsibility and accountability. I feel losing your temper is a good thing. However, I am not a fan of directing that anger at anyone else. It’s important to teach kids how to let it out.

I am hoping that the “Angry Jar” creates an opportunity for Pause. Because it is scientifically proven that if kids are able to stop and name their emotion, they don’t lose their temper. The Angry Jar is my goal to create a deterrent that creates that Pause. Maybe in that Pause, the kids and I will gather our thoughts, leave the room and go into our bedrooms and beat the crap out of our pillows or our bed. Better that than screaming at Mom.

Why did I choose money? I chose it because the boys understand that dollars can buy things and in our family if they want something special, they can use their own money to buy it. We are on a tight budget and if we bought a $1 toy every time we go to the store, we would be spending an extra $500 a year. This is not the last idea I will try with my kids and myself. There will be others in 2012. Keep listening to Zen Parenting for all of their great ideas and tips, while I also suggest you jump over to Parenting Unplugged Radio every now and again to see how and what we are doing. Plus, don’t forget what’s most important, share the shows with a friend. I look forward to your responses…

Drew, Connor and I gave Laura some space, and got out of town for 5 days. Our 12 hour car rides gave us time to think and fight as well. What came out of it? Maybe a parenting gem and maybe not. The Anger Jar has now set up camp in our house and while it had a lot of momentum early, it has slowed down a little.

What is it? What was the purpose behind it? Who is it really for? All of the answers await you in this episode. By the way, operators are standing by at our house ready to take your orders.

The death of a family member is never easy. It can be especially difficult if it is your younger sister. Laura recently lost her sister Caroline, a young woman who had been battling with Bi-Polarism for almost half her life.

Everyone deals with grief differently and this episode is about the personal struggle that Laura has been dealing with and also the perspective of Todd, who has tried his best to be supportive.

Would you have handled this delicate situation the same way? Have you ever experienced anything like this? What are your tips for grief?

Linda Cohen is a Portlander, who lost her father a few years ago and being true to her faith of Judaism, she wanted to begin a mitzvah in his honor. So began a journey that took over two years to complete and 1000 Mitzvot later, Linda put together a beautiful book, 1000 Mitzvahs: How small acts of kindness can heal, inspire and change your life.

I have always thought that at the heart of Judaism, a beautiful community exists. Maybe people struggle with this religion because they feel excluded. If so, then here is your opportunity to put on your Yarmulke or Kipah.

Talk about the perfect holiday gift. This is something that will unite your family and could live on for generations as it speaks to the real person in all of us. Thank you Linda for travelling this path and sharing it all with us.

Do you remember watching MASH as a kid? What a great show and Col. Potter was fabulous. Harry Morgan has died, he was 96. Todd gave him props. Also, earlier today there was barely any mention of it being Pearl Harbor Day. Is America forgetting about its heritage and what so many did on that fateful day? Plus a father wants his son to have Pot. The reason makes sense, some people’s reaction doesn’t. And should doctors be allowed to check a 9 year old cholesterol? Isn’t that a little young?

They were certainly topics that you can take to the water cooler tomorrow and as always, Todd was not short on opinions. It’s nice to be back.

What is our job as parents when it comes to our kids and anger? Is it our job to shame them? No. It is our job to be their teachers and we can’t do that if we are yelling at them to stop yelling.

Parents are models and when we model the wrong thing, what do we do? Glenda responded to a bunch of issue that Todd and Laura are struggling with.

Learn how to self soothe and how that is so crucial to your own development and your child’s. Plus, can we model for our kids how to behave when they are angry? Yes.

And next time you are getting frustrated, ask yourself this. Do kids don’t come with knowledge of how to regulate their emotions. I think you know the answer. Enjoy the show.

There are many source of stress, and dealing with them all can be difficult. Dr. Juniper, our Naturopath, said that reviewing our environments and accepting little changes in our everyday lives, we can reduce our stress, both mentally and physically. It can be extremely calming! What do Todd, Laura and Dr. Juniper do for stress? Listen in and learn Dr. Juniper’s C.L.E.A.R. stress reducing tips.

Honestly, Todd and Laura had fought over this when they boys were born. So they split 50-50. Todd may have thought he won, but now he realizes after this conversation that he lost and so maybe have most men who fight to have their child circumcised. What is the point to it? How does it actually benefit the child? It is all about male ego? Why do so many European countries not do it?

Just because Todd had it done, does that mean his boys have to have done as well? Aren’t we trying to have our children live a life that is pain free rather than pain full?

If you have kids, this may cause you to want to apologize to them. If you don’t, it will cause you to pause for a moment and really think through this decision. Why should we allow a Doctor to force something upon our child that we don’t want. Look, they don’t know everything.

I have heard from many that they want to do both, but can they? Can you? I think you can, but I don’t see any moms that do. They might say they do, but I think it is only wishful thinking.

First Lady Michelle Obama inspired this conversation as she talked about doing her job, being there for her kids and finding that balance while supporting her husband run the country.

Laurie Regan, Co-host of the show along with Heiner Fruehauf, joins Todd and Laura to discuss what is your True Nature? Laurie is the Dean of the School of Classical Chinese Medicine at National College of Natural Medicine in Portland, Oregon. Heiner Fruehauf is the founder.

Their roads to the school are very different. One graduated from Harvard Medical School, the other battled cancer. Both found their True Nature in Classical Chinese Medicine. Their goal is to share their knowledge and resources with you. Get a taste in this edition of Parenting Unplugged Radio.

This is something we struggle with every day, not only from a personal standpoint, but a parenting one as well. So that is why we are so happy that Signe Whitson wrote this book: How to Be Angry: An Assertive Anger Expression Group Guide for Kids and Teens.

This is a home run for all parents. Not only does it provide examples and resources for us but it also is part of a workshop you can do with your family, with other parents with other teachers etc… There are exercises you can utilize at the end of every chapter and they are relevant to today’s child.

Sure we don’t want our kids exploding with anger, but unless we are able to give them tools and resources, they will never get there. plus this book gives you a chance to heal your own wounds.

Find out the ways to help your children learn how to deal with their anger in an appropriate way.

Catherine’s research and collaboration on this book provides all parents with much needed resources and stories that will allow them to understand their “middies” much better. Did you know that most middle children are perceived as neglected, overlooked, confused, but never spoiled?

Whether you are a Middie, or have a middie, this book can create a wealth of knowledge that you can use with your spouse, your coworkers or even your boss. In fact, maybe you will see why Donald Trump, the Dali Lama and many of the American Presidents all are middle children. It’s an episode that any parent with children should listen to. Enjoy!

“Because it’s bad for our kids’ brains. I’m addicted to it and we just waste time down here.”

“But Honey, I have to watch my college football games, then there is the NBA and college basketball. Plus you can’t forget about my favorite shows, like Modern Family and reruns of old Cheers episodes.”

“Sorry, but I am going to do it. It’s what’s best for our family.”

Now, I could have argued vehemently, but I knew deep down she was right. We had been talking about doing for a while, however, I thought she was just blabbling on and it was just a passing thought like, “Wow, that is one good looking guy over there, if I weren’t married to you…”  Hey, I have my top 5 list and she has hers.

So, then the day came and that was over three months ago. I have to tell you, every day when I go down into my basement and I see that TV sitting there with no cable hook up, I think to myself, “Why the hell didn’t we do this sooner?”

We are saving over $700 per year and I don’t miss TV at all. Sure, the Season Premieres are coming up and new shows are out, but am I going to be sad that I don’t see Ashton Kutcher taking over for Charlie Sheen? If I really need a hit, I can always go online and catch a show the week after it airs on TV. Plus, Netflix has all of the Cheers episodes available and I can go there to catch one.  The sporting events are tougher, but with ESPN3, I can see a few games. Of course, if I really need to, I can go to a local smoke free watering hole and watch the game.

But the more I think about it, my wife, Laura, who is brilliant beyond her years and beyond my imagination, has created something amazing for me. I spend more time with my kids playing indoors and out. The weekends are spent doing something fun things together as a group rather than sitting on my ass like a zombie stuffing my face with food I don’t need.

How many TV’s do you have in your home? How often do you find yourself sitting in front of it eating and not talking to your family? Maybe you should get rid of your TV too.

We will bust the Middle Child Myth. We will find out why middle children are brilliant negotiators, trail blazers and justice seekers while we will also discover how to parent them.

Are you and your spouse the same or is one a 1st child and the other something different? Does it lead to issues between the two of you? It does for Laura and Todd. That’s why we are all excited about this conversation. Don’t miss it LIVE on Wednesday at 2pm, pst.

I discovered this morning that one of the best ways to get my kids to stop punching, hitting or yelling at each other is… music. Not just any music. We are talking Dynamite. We are talking Taio Cruz.  Everything was going fine and then for some reason my 7 and 4 year old started griping and going at one another. I could have sat down, talked with them, discussed their feelings and such, but I was late. I had to get them in the car and get to school. So, I immediately turned on the radio, because honestly music soothes me quite often. I was quickly moving around the dial to find something I liked and the boys are ramping up the intensity of their confrontation. Then BOOM!

“I throw my hands up in the air some times, saying  ay-oh. Gotta let go.

I want to celebrate and live my life saying ay-oh, baby let’s go

Cause we gonna rock this club, we gonna go all night, we gonna light this up like its dynamite.

Cause I told you once and I told you twice, we gonna light up like it’s dynamite.”

Ok, so they aren’t the best written words ever, but when the music started pumping and the bys heard it, their eyes shifted to the front of the car, “Wait, we love that song!” I noticed they both said, “We”. That was nice. Then they both started singing, one in tune and the other spoke about every third or fourth word. That didn’t matter. What was great was that music brought them together. School is only 3 or 4 minutes away, so as we pulled up and the song had just ended, the older one, Connor age 7, says to Drew, “I love you Drew. I’ll see you after school.” To which the 4 year old Drew yelled back, “I love you too Connor! Bye!”

Some parents are scared of the lyrics that are out there and what it is teaching our kids. That’s a posting for another day. Trust me. I have a story about that too.

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” - Carl Jung

“No one can make any on else feel guilty. Guilt comes from within. You either feel it, or you don’t. And actually, guilt is a very good thing! It causes us to re-evaluate our position – lets us know when we are no longer in line with our own principles, our core values. It tells us that something is off, and motivates us to change whatever it is we’re doing. In other words, guilt makes us uncomfortable for a very good reason!” –  Drmomma.org/Peaceful Parenting on Facebook

Over the course of this episode, Laura and Todd came to realize that while they have been inundated with guilt laden statements over the years from their mothers, there are also statements that have no guilt in them, but we create our own guilt from them. How does that happen? How do we deal with it and overcome? Find out on this episode.

Have you heard of Silent Sidelines? Todd learned about this from Therapist Ann DeWitt and utilized it in his child’s soccer game on Saturday. The results were mind blowing. The reaction from kids, parents and the other team. Plus it actually led to two goals being scored. Is this something that Todd wants to continue or not?

How can being quiet on the sidelines in a soccer game be a good thing? Todd takes you through the decision to do it. How he handled the parents on both teams and how it all turned out.

If your child plays on a sports team, do not miss this special episode.

Sometimes for kids it’s not easy separating from their mother or father. It can be a scary time. How do they make it through the day without them? Audrey found a simple way and has shared it with millions. If you haven’t read her books, find out more about the wonderful connecting opportunites she provides. If you have read her books, find out more information about her history, her beliefs and her struggle with the Military and how she hopes a plea can allow her to deliver hugs and kisses to kids from the parents who are protecting our country.

We have found that one of the leaders of a local theater camp did that with our child, kicked him out of the end of the week performance and left him feeling horrible about the whole idea of being on stage. Theater was a big part of my Jr High and High School expereinces and also played a major role in my career as a local and national sports talk show host before helping start Pagatim.fm. I will be furious if this episode sours him on the whole idea of ever getting back up on stage.

As his parent, it is important that I support him through this and work through the issues that got him to this point. My son is not without blame in this. He is the one who acted out and caused issues. I may even be the one that helped put him in the mood to act this way because of my own behavior, so I am not without potential blame as well. However, there is no excuse for an adult (over 21) to act this way. The adult has to take responsibility for their own actions.

Laura and I go toe to toe as she is frustrated but wants to take the high road. Not me. See which side you fall on during this episode of Parenting Unplugged.

It’s not an easy fix, but the solutions are coming together and with all of the research that is now available, the Children’s Institute is pushing for more early childhood development. Will it make a difference? That’s for you to decide, but you need to listen first. Enjoy!

Second of all, Connor was spanked last week by his Grandfather. This got Todd out of his rocker and up on his soap box. Laura didn’t necessarily agree.

Third, some absolute magic happened as Drew caught his first fish ever as did Connor. A deeper understanding of both children was birthed after one on one discussions with them. Also an opportunity to see our 4 and 7 year old in the wilderness and on a river was enlightening.

To say it was a ride is an understatement. To miss hearing the reaction to it all would be a missed opportunity.

Larry Rogers, Laura and Todd’s counselor joined them on this episode and took over the controls. He decided on the topic and delved into what makes Todd and Laura work well together and work not so well together. Talk about an honest show. These two didn’t hold back and found out something new about each other.

We are not asking you to change career paths and start working together, but we are asking you to listen together and start a conversation that may lead you down a similar path. Enjoy.

There needs to be reasons behind the things we do for our kids because it can have lasting effects on them. Our children are growing up without any knowledge about how to handle their money. We can help them by making certain changes and making sure that we are giving them money for the right reasons. Schools aren’t teaching our kids anything about money, so let’s make sure that we, as parents, do.

I get the feeling Laura and I will have different opinions and this could lead to a very fun conversation. Honestly, if you are going to give them something, should you have the right to take it away?

While many of you may have been married longer, over 13 years these two have learned quite a bit about each other. Not just superficial stuff, we are talking about the deeper meaning that makes each of them tick. However, even to this day, they keep learning. In fact, this past weekend, Todd and Laura had another awakening as they discussed the presence of God or Spirit or whatever you call your greater being…that is if you have one. They fell on polar opposite sides of this issue and enjoyed a rather heated debate. We hope you’ll enjoy it as well. Maybe you should let us know what you think on our Facebook page or right on our web page below the show in comments.

What about Teens and Tweens? We discussed that as well. Where are some of the places we as parents can take steps to help prevent our children from getting sick? Lunch bags? What is best to put in them? What is worst?

This is a conversation not to be missed unless you want to be paying more in co-pays than in education. Don’t forget to share it with other families at your school and LIKE us on Facebook. Can we cross the 300 barrier by Monday? I bet we can if we all stay healthy enough.

So how does Mindfulness improve our lives and the lives of those around us? Tough question. Simple answer and it is shared on this episode.

But before you listen to the show, think for a moment. What does Mindfulness mean to you. Leave us a comment and then listen to the show. See how close your description is to that of Kimberly. Don’t worry about how close you come, because nobody can be farther away than Todd was.

Start Being. Stop Doing.

What does that mean? What does that do? Why don’t we make that shift? Laura gets a real lesson in how to be, while Todd gets a couple of clues that will help him out. Find out how to not get caught in the loop anymore and live the life you have been looking for.

Join us at 2pm on Weds at Pagatim.fm

Originally I didn’t go to the event. I went to watch the Harry Potter movie. But she asked that I pick her up at 10. I stopped by and because I know some of her friends, I hung out. It was a long night and a fun one. I got to see Laura back in her High School glory. I also got to see her with her High School sweetheart. It wasn’t just like old times but it sure seemed that way at times.

How did I react seeing them talk and have eyes only for each other at times? You are going to have to listen. You have heard me blow up on these shows before. You should hear my reaction to the whole encounter this time and what I made sure to tell the guy before we all called it a night.

Tony Deis, the founder of TrackersEarth, and surprisingly also the Galley Cook, joined us to talk about how this camp is making a difference in kids lives. Tired of your children spending too much time in front of some sort of screen? Ready to challenge them this summer?

TrackersEarth says the ancient skills are coming back and they are helping teach them to you: Survival, Hunting & Gathering, Tracking, Ecology, Invisibility in the forest, Permaculture and more. They teach to our kids and they can teach you as well. Find out how in this episode.

Nope, it’s the Fairmont Orchid on the Big Island

I could have sworn this was Heaven

Is there a heaven?

Oh yeah. It’s the place where dreams come true.

Then maybe this is heaven.

It’s not Field of Dreams, but there is no doubt this hotel is close. It’s our final show from Hawaii. It was time to reflect back on what a wonderful trip it was. In case you missed any of the shows from there, you might want to check this one out. Plus learn more about the Fairmont Orchid. Trust me, next time you go to the Big Island, that is the place you want to be. Find out why.

Plus from the parenting side of things, Laura and Todd were getting a bit testy with each other as they moved to the end of the vacation. It can happen after a month on the road.  Todd is never afraid of calling Laura out. Find out how she responds.

That’s what we found after sitting down for a chat about all that the Fairmont Orchid has to offer. We weren’t talking about events we were just talking about the land, the Hawaiian culture and how this hotel brings to life the spirit of Hawaii. How do they do it? How do they encapsulate it all? Listen in to this episode of Parenting Unplugged Radio.

Owana leads us all on a journey of how it was gathered, where it is from and much more about Hawaiian culture in general. Find out exactly why it is so different on the Island, and why we all usually say, “I love the Hawaiian way.”

Along the way there have been many downs, but his patience has paid off and now Island Princess is considered one of the Big 3 Macadamia Nut companies in Hawaii. This would be his first born. His second baby was a venture that he took on back on the Mainland. It’s called Orchard Heights Winery in West Salem, Oregon. The first wine he produced was not your typical variety. Most in Sonoma and Napa laughed at him. It’s still his top seller.

While Mike and Gwen don’t have children, they have learned many life lessons along the way and his Parting Wisdom is something we should all pass along to our kids. Hear it and you will share it with friends and family.

Todd and Charles had some time near the Dolphins to talk about what got him to the Islands, why he would never leave and why eating as a family may be the most important thing you do with your children.

We talked about what has happened in the year since we last had her on the show. They have a new 11 month old Dolphin, Noelani, and are expecting another new one this August.

But the conversation wasn’t all about the animal I consider the cutest next to a dog, it also talked about the 4R’s: Reduce, Reuse, Recycle and Respect. We know about the first three, being from Portland and all, but the fourth one really hits home when you are living on an Island in the middle of nowhere. Hawaii and all of the people that live really have to respect the planet, because a little damage here can travel a long way. You don’t want to tick off Mother Nature on this Island; she has an active volcano on it. Don’t test her.

You may have played with Dolphins at other locations around the world, but it’s different at Dolphin Quest because they are an educational facility first and that provides us as guests something that we can take home with us long after the phenomenal visit.

Learn more about it all and how you can capture the memory of a lifetime for you and your kids with Dolphin Quest.

Todd and Laura sat on the porch of this 100+ year old home where Tom has created an oasis of sorts. There is Cacao, Coffee, Pineapple, Bananas, Papaya, Mango and some of the most beautiful flowers you have ever seen growing here.  The three sat down for what was to be just a 30 minute conversation and turned into a life changing chat that lasted well over an hour and a half. Too bad Todd only recorded 30 minutes. But that 30 could be profound for you as well.

Here is a teaser of some of the items that were discussed: How to get Blissed but why that may not be the best thing for you. Why the male ego must die. Let this one sink in: It’s better to express how you feel without being how you feel. Or even this, “it’s not what you say, it’s what is being said”

We don’t want to give all the secrets away but it is conversation that has given us more than just pause. It reminds us that you never know what you will find as long as you keep your eyes open. Greg Colden, of Kona’s Natural Soap Company said it in our interview last Wednesday, “We need to make sure we don’t just look ahead or look behind us. It’s important to see the periphery.”

But this show also discussed how Todd and Laura deal with being cooped up in a small house while trying to deal with two very active boys.  It has lead to some trying moments. What do you do when you are in an enclosed area or situation and someone starts getting upset? Laura’s suggestion of going on a run might have Todd in the best shape of his life by the end of the week.

And don’t miss out on learning about one of the finest healing oils on the island. It’s already working for our family.

After a jaw dropping drive over Mauna Koa, the biggest volcano on the planet, we arrived in Volcano on one of the other 4 volcanoes on this island. Kilauea is the one that has been active for almost the past 30 years and is helping expand the island. We were able to see the volcano spew steam hundreds of feet into the air from a very close distance. We were nowhere near the active lava that is coming forth currently. Those areas are closed off but to see the plume of smoke arise out of a volcano at close range is something; especially if you are someone who has lived through the Mt. St Helens explosions of the 80′s and beyond.

After spending much of the day there, we finally arrived at our original destination, Punalu’u. If you enjoy the islands, and I mean any islands, and enjoy running your toes through the sand, this locale might interest you. There is no white sand, only black. If you spend all of your life believing one thing and then are shown something that you never could exist; it is quite a trip.

It felt the same, smelled the same, and essentially was the same. It was just black.

The day was getting long and we had been away from home for 8 hours. It was getting dark and it was time to go home. We had walked along the beach. We had seen the turtles that lay sleeping on the warm black sand and rocks. It was time to get the kids in the car and go. They would be hungry soon. Then Drew, our 4 year old, says, “Why are we leaving so soon? We just got here? This is the coolest sand I have ever seen. I want to play in it.”

I had plans to get everyone fed before sundown and on the road and back home by 9pm. I was on the south end of the Island, 3 hours away from our home and I wanted to go. I don’t know how or why, but as I was sitting there with my toes in the sand, watching my kids look up at me. I thought, “Always bet on black.” Thanks Wesley Snipes.

“Sure, go on kids. Play all you want. We are in no rush.” Remember when you were a kid and your parents got you in the car for a long all day car trip. Along the way, your Dad is getting frustrated because either he is lost or it’s just taking too long with so many potty stops. Well, I remember being that kid. I remember too many long road trips where I wanted to play after we got somewhere and all I got was a terse, “Time to go. Everyone, get in the car. You have seen what we came here to see. Now let’s go.” We don’t have to be those parents. We don’t have to be in that rush. Whether you are on vacation for 7 days or a month, let’s just try to remember to always enjoy the special outings and always bet on Black.

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It lead to a conversation about how different their children are and how that can be one of the biggest hurdles in raising your children. So what to do when you do get angry? Are you a parent who yells at their children?

Todd has a very loud voice and a temper. So how can he take better steps and teach his kids a better way? He actually came up with the best answer and Laura was in total shock. Find out what it is and if it can help you on this episode.

Greg Colden is the co-founder of the Kona Natural Soap Company in Kona on the Big Island. He and his partner Marty Corrigan have created something special that started with a sunburn. 6 years later, the Kokoleka Lani Farm has become the home of what is possibly the greenest, most soothing and best soap available.

But we didn’t just talk soap, we talked about how he arrived at this point in his life. As the owner of a very successful Insurance business, taking this plunge wasn’t exactly easy, but he was staring back at life like a child. He was open to everything and he found exactly what he always wanted out of life. I would encourage you to listen to his Parting Wisdom at the end of the show. It may be exactly what you have been looking for.

Poop: You may have read about this story on our Facebook page. If not, the saga of a road trip turned into hell and back is smack dab in the middle of this episode and yes it involves. Poop.

Parenting: We were trying to record this show while our children were trying to play nicely. That didn’t last and while Todd did edit out the moments they broke in, we did get the chance to talk about it. Laura explained how she handled one situation and then when Todd handled a similar situation the same way a little bit later, she procalimed, “Well, I would have handled it this way.” Did Todd lose his cool? We don’t hold anything from you on this show.

Sibling Rivalries are something we are locked in right now. Connor (7) and Drew(4) play well well but right now we are 50/50 fun and fighting. It’s driving us both insane.

We did have some wonderful resources to talk about on the Big Island. Our trip to the Sea Horse farm, our venture to Akaka Falls (it says it’s $1 to get it. We didn’t see any of that. It was free) and the Seafood Watch info from the Monterrey Bay Aquarium. It’s all good and it’s all in this episode.

Todd Williamson of OmBase Yoga studios joined Todd and Laura, and they discussed how a parent might deal with fear or uncertainty. Feeling scared is hard enough, and regulating it in front of the kids is hard. What did Todd, Todd and Laura think the  best way to maintain control, and handle fear in front of the kids?

This is a stop I think most families with young kids should make on the Big Island. The tour was fantastic, very informative and the kids really enjoyed it. The saw Sea Dragons, hundreds of Sea Horses and yes, all of us had the chance to have one of these little guys wrap themselves around our fingers.

The cost was $35 for adults and $25 for kids. It lasted well over an hour, but the money is key to their research as they are a non grant funded institution. They are doing good work and with the fact that it is projected at our current pace, the world will empty our seas of edible fish in 29 years, we should support what they are doing.

In Hawaii, it is believed that every person has an animal spirit. It may be a Tiger, a Shark, or in Connor’s case a Turtle. Whether or not you believe this, when you are in the Islands, do what the Islanders do. Last year, when we went to our favorite beach, on the first day we saw a turtle along the shore swimming. We continued to see turtles everywhere we went and while they are everywhere around the Island ask those who have come here. Not everyone sees them.

Connor does. He sees them everywhere, or maybe it ‘s that the Turtles see him. Just like last year, he was swimming in the water earlier today and sure enough a young turtle swims up beside him and raises his head. We walked the entire beach with the turtle and kids flocked to our group. Everyone wanted to see the turtle and Connor made sure they did but he also made sure they knew not to touch her. We watched him eat leaves and just enjoy the audience. That whole event seemed pretty inspiring to me, but that was only the half of it.

Last year, when we arrived at the beach late on the first day a family was packing up and leaving and they asked us if we wanted their boogey boards and digging tools. They said someone had given them the boards and they wanted to pass them along. They were in great shape and we used them for the entire month. Today, we had been at the beach for an hour or more and a mom came up and asked if we would like to have their boogey boards as they were leaving the next day and couldn’t pack them. There were hundreds of families on this beach. There were plenty of kids without boogey boards and for the second straight year, someone came up to us and handed us a pair of boards.

I am always floored by the magic of the Islands. Whether it is healing magic or just general creation. Hawaii is something special.

In general, travelling to Hawaii isn’t that bad, unless you have a kid with Pinkeye. Yes, we have been greeted with the beauty of the Big Island and a nasty case of Pink Eye. Drew has it but I guess this might be the best place to have it. The salt water might help wash it away and the healing powers of Hawaii don’t hurt either.

But will that power and healing ability always remain? With all the garbage, recycling is key here but does everyone really care? Many of the locals do and almost all of the visitors don’t. Where does all of the plastic go?

We also filled you in on how we have been able to do this trip every year. It’s a house exchange. Have you ever done that? Where did you go? Did you get the better house?

And of course we would be here without our great friends at Hawaiian Airlines who flew us here.

I can honestly say that it really doesn’t matter how old you are, you always feel like a kid again when you say, “We’re going to Hawaii!” When do you know if the trip is going to be a success or not? At the check-in. That seems to set the tone. Get a bad baggage handler, a bad greeter or a computer that won’t work and boom! The trip is off on the wrong foot. No such luck for us. Hawaiian Airlines nailed it, even with the flowers to get us all in the mood.

Hawaiian is kind of like Tiger Woods without all those issues. Straight down the fairway every time.  You are going to get the smiles, maybe a song, the friendliness, the helpful people, the choices. It’s just what they do and now being that it is our 3rd time doing this trip with them. I can honestly say, they got it down. In fact, I might even have a shot at an eagle.

Hmmm, golfing in Hawaii. Nope, not gonna get away with that. The trip was flawless, though I will be honest, we almost left without Laura and Drew. They went off somewhere before the plane left Portland and well, I like to get on planes early. To me it wasn’t a big deal. Then I looked at Connor and realized he was kind of panicked. I hadn’t thought about him. Even though he is 7, and so often I think of him as a big boy, he still wants to make sure his mommy is ok and with him.

Well, we are now here enjoying the beautiful Island and people. Not to say that Portland doesn’t have that but with everyone being so happy to be here and the fact that everyone actually wants some rain in July because it is so hot,  there are some very cool people here.

Mahalo! We will talk more on Wednesday’s show from the Big Island. And thanks again to Hawaiian Airlines for getting us here. They were just what I needed.

On this episode, Todd and Laura talked with Dr. Wendy Mogel, a clinical psychologist, parenting expert, and author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and The Blessing of a B Minus. Wendy said that each child is different, with their own interests, and to “see your child as a seed that came in a packet without a label”.

Are you cheating your child when you under schedule, and every other kid is going to a dozen summer camps? Check out this episode to hear those benefits of under scheduling, and how a crammed schedule could hurt as your son or daughter grows.

In this episode, Dr. Andrea Nakayama and her 10-year-old son Gilbert told Todd and Laura about what Gilbert eats, how they cook together and ways to get your child to eat healthy. Gilbert had some fascinating insight on healthy eating as a child, the benefits of seaweed, and he shared how he goes about staying healthy around kids his age, it isn’t easy with so many junk food out there! Andrea shared her knowledge on sugar in food, and what you should be feeding your child to help them lead a healthy life.

A happy childhood doesn’t always lead to a happy adult. What can you do to help your child understand how the world works? How much is too much praise? What are some essential things your child needs to go through? Lori talks to Todd about raising your child in a world of success, and the equally important world with failure.

Our kids were with their babysitter last week and had a great time at the beach. But they both got bad sunburns on their backs. They have turned to bubbles after three days and a bad Prickly Rash (“Heat Rash”). How do we get them to heal? Aloe? yes. What about food? How can we help their bodies heal themselves. We have answers.

Also, the Grandparents gave them M&M’s, Sprite and overall bad food this weekend at a play. Then they told them they needed to be quiet. The worst part is how bad the sugar is for their body and bad for the rash and sun burn they are suffering from. Will the Grandparents ever listen to what we ask of them?

Finally, Todd witnessed a mom telling her daughter that “you’re ok” after she fell down on her knees. I am so tired of people telling kids “you’re ok” when they aren’t. What parents think the kids are going to say, “you are right, I was just trying to get attention.” Kids aren’t trying to get attention when they hurt themselves. A better approach is to acknowledge them, because otherwise you are telling the kids their feelings don’t matter. What if your spouse told you every day that your feelings didn’t matter? By acknowledging the kids feelings, “Wow, that must hurt. Are you ok?” The kids will either ask for some connection or say, “I’m ok”. Don’t answer it for them. Let them tell you they are ok. Capiche?

What are these ailments? What foods can cause these problems? What can you do to help your child? Todd and Laura spoke with Kelly and discussed detective techniques parents can use to figure out what is causing ailments such as picky eating or even ADHD. Learn to trust your intuition, because it may be the most important tool as a parent to decipher what is really causing your child pain.

As for Laura, she spent her weekend in Hood River and while we told you why that town is so great on a recent KEEN HybridLife Radio program,. she found more reasons as to why it is so incredible. In fact, this weekend, may lead to a complete rebirth for her.

As it was a Monday’s edition of the show, there are many other little stories along the 30 minutes as well that you will enjoy, including one that explains why reading aloud in the public library might not be the best idea, and for a reason you never would have thought of.

What are some of the best ways to explain to a child the death of a pet? What are some ways one can cope with the loss and mourn in a healthy way? Why does it hurt so much? Todd and Laura shared their experiences with the loss of pets, including one very recently. They explained how they dealt with the loss, what it meant to them and how they helped their children cope with the passing of their beloved Holly.

Enid shared her ideas on activities and support groups to attend after the loss of a pet, and delivered advice to the whole family on how to handle the grieving process.

Our kids, Connor(7) and Drew(4) were heavily effected by her death. Here, weeks after it, they are still talking about how sad they are and how much they miss her. How does a parent handle the trauma and sadness that exists in a child after something like this?

Enid Traisman is the certified grief counselor & Director of the DoveLewis Pet Loss Support Program. If you have ever had to go through this or are suspecting you will in the near future, make sure to listen to this episode or share it with friends, because when that moment comes, it helps to have some support.

Todd went to his 25th high school reunion, and dragged Laura along. They share their experience with classmates and other parents at the reunion and how to go about enjoying the weekend.

Also summer is here, and school is out, if both parents are working, what do you do with your kids? Todd and Laura are struggling with this right now. Do you have suggestions? Send them to Todd@pagatim.fm, and listen to what the Mansfield’s are doing on this episode.

In this episode, Dr Juniper Martin, our Naturopath, gives you the ultimate allergy remedy. No doctors. No shots. No drugs. It works. It’s proven. It will leave you saying wow! and will probably excite you so much that you will want to send this episode out to all of your friends. At least, that is what we are hoping for.

Kevin interviewed 50 different woman from around the world and in doing so changed his own relationship with his two daughters. There are tears, laughter and knowledge shared in this read and to imagine that a man was able to unveil these feelings and emotion makes this book and this interview that much better.

Times have changed. No longer do all men bring home the bacon and long gone are the days that all women fry it up in a pan. Still there are rights that are not being given to… men?

It may not seem that way, but in many areas where families are concerned, men usually get the short end of the stick. In custody cases, is domestic violence cases, in the case of changing a babies diaper in a public facility, there is a bias against men.

The National Coalition for Men helped get changing tables in bathrooms so father’s could change diapers. It seems natural now, but 15 years ago it wasn’t.

Women led their movement and became empowered and have been doing a great job at creating equality in the workplace. Men want equality in other places and they aren’t getting it easily.

This discussion might rattle your feathers a little bit, but it is one that will make you think twice before you judge a man by the look of him.

Todd’s new Mantra is “Next Point”. Why let what has happened linger and bother you? Instead, move on. Learn from what has happened, breathe through what is bothering you and address the issues and person, but don’t let anger control what happens to you next.

Todd Williamson’s concern was that due to Todd Mansfield’s tie in with sports, it was going to be about winning or losing when it should be about being. Can it just be about being for you?

What Laura and I realized in this interview was that while we may not agree 100% with the way others parent, we do agree that if enough people can come together with the same overall beliefs, the world can change faster than just one parent at a time.

Another highlight in the show was the moment when Todd read two fabulous emails that were sent in by listeners: one blasting Laura and the other telling Todd he was fairly off base. The feedback was fun to talk about and learn from. Thank you listeners!

We also found out the best protection against Sunburn. The warm days are just ahead, so they say in the Northwest. We also had answers to the question, what do I eat now? I have Type 2 Diabetes. It was a show full of questions, that normally you have to pay $20 for in co-pay. But today they are all FREE. Enjoy!

When is it time for one parent to take the reigns? When does one parent need to step back and let the other handle the situation? Plus we get more insight into both Todd and Laura’s past and where these trust issues might stem from. You definitely don’t want to miss the fireworks!

The health of our children is always top of mind and lately we have been doing something with our kids that seems to be working wonders on their physical and mental health. Plus it’s helping keep us sane as parents. And finally, what to do when you are finding that you are making some really good friends, but they are all Divorced/Single with kids? How do you incorporate that into your married with children lifestyle?

It’s not easy to separate from your children and it can cause stress within yourself and within your children. Bringing the two of you together with this book, is a great way to get through the difficult times.

Arthur shares with us the inspiration to the book, his son Max , who is now 7 and also shares some title of other books we might be interested in. Do you remember those nights cuddling up with your parents reading stories? Let’s all take the time to make sure we do that as well with our kids, especially if we are having to spend more than our fair share of time away from them.

‎”I mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy. Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” — Martin Luther King, Jr.

It’s time to think about how we are reacting to this. Also, think about chickens. Listen to the show and you can find out why.

Her suggestion to Todd and others would be that they they take one minute, two minutes or even just five minutes once or twice a day to come into connection with themselves. Taking that amount of time can allow you to find your center and your balance and create the type of future you have really been looking for.

On this episode, Susie opens up and shares the history of how she came to create Indigo Village and a place where parents and kids alike could feel safe, secure and heard. As she spoke to us, she reiterated the fact that Kids are here to teach us parents. That parents are really here to be models for their kids and to keep them safe. It’s information that seems so simple, yet so many parents don’t adhere to it. Take a moment. Listen. Hear what she has to say because we as parents don’t have the time not to.

On this episode, Laura and Todd did talk about it because they had a crazy event take place over the weekend on Highway 26. Everyone is ok, but it was traumatic for all involved.

The bigegst question that came out of this event was, what about our kids? They watched all of this unfold from 30 feet away. There were three Police Officers involved. There was yelling, screaming and punching involved. How do you talk to your kids about something like this? That was the focus of this show.

Barbara helped start this company in 1982 and since then has had one goal. Not to fight the powers that be, but to help educate any parent who is looking for more information about vaccinations. Her story is touching as she explains at the start why she created this for parents. Now, nearly 30 years later, this is the place to go find everything you need to know. So if you feel overwhelmed, may I suggest you start by listening to this interview.

Plus our Doctor says Drew is overloaded with stimuli. What are we doing about it? The answer is more than just simple, it’s fun too! By the way, we did see the movie after the Doctor told us of the problem.

We all over dramatize what is going on in our lives and therefore get extra busy so we don’t have to deal with it. Have you ever noticed that? Take the time to sit down and be with yourself and be with your true self. Through that, we can find the answers we are looking for. It can really help in parenting.

Sure we should all go in and see our doctors every now and again even if we are healthy, but even now as Todd and his friends are a few years into their 40′s, what approaches? This is where Todd’s father started having his health scares. In fact at one time he was told he had 6 months to live (he has since hung around for another 26).

Either way, those moments can be scary. Todd and Laura share what they have been through and invite you to do the same.

Plus Drew turned 4 this weekend! Why was one present he received better than all others? And why did Todd and Laura think it was the best one as well? Find out in this episode of Parenting Unplugged Radio.

Andrea Nakayama, a certified Nutritional Counselor, joined Todd on her monthly visit to the show and they talked about Men.

She entered this field because her husband, who died of a brain tumor 11 years ago, lived two years more than doctors expected because he changed his diet. Can it help you before you days are done?

When Mom is away, does dad stick to the healthy choices at meal time? What is best for your kids? Is consuming plenty of meat ok? We asked and she answered lots of questions pertaining to health. if you want to it better, you need to make sure you have this episode.

Steven and Arlene have over 30 years each of experience with Special Needs children on all parts of the spectrum, from ADD to Autism. They shared many of their thoughts and insights for parents on the show.
This is one of those episode you should share with anyone you know that has a Special Needs child.

With the recent disaster in Japan, how much information have you allowed your child to view? Have you showed them the devastation? What has your child said about it? Did it scare them? Todd recounts his story with their 7 year old. Plus if you are a parent that says your young children can’t watch this video, would you let them play violent video games?
Also you may have heard that Ambercrombie & Fitch is selling padded bikini tops for Tweens. If your 9 year old daughter came up to you and asked to have one, what would you say? What would you do? Do you blame A&F? Do you not blame anyone? What would tell your daughter about the product? Todd and Laura differed on this one so much that Todd had to call Laura to the carpet.

Could that be true? Could more than one relationship have the same ups and downs? Could Larry the Counselor Guy have answers? Indeed he does and you get to see them in action during this episode. Maybe you will use them, maybe you won’t but you will understand what makes this show truly Unplugged.

Todd was going solo on this show as Laura was off with our 3 year old during his spring break. Which one of us is creating work/life balance? We both are loving what we do, but one is and one isn’t.

We checked in with the Mayo Clinic about how to create better work/life balance. Also, Worklifebalancecentre.org had a few ideas that we shared about creating better health and work/life balance for ourselves.

By the way, do you work for one of the 9 companies Todd talked about which offer amenities for all workers that help create work/life balance? Some of their ideas were good, some were ridiculous. But they all were a step in the right direction.

Do you ever feel as though your life is just a carrot at the end of a long stick that you are holding? Drop it!

What about when your spouse changes over the years and you are not really changing at the same speed? How do each of you handle that? Todd and Laura were able to bring up their own conversation, because that’s happening right now.

Check out some of Todd’s classes at http://ombase.org

Charity is helping break the old adage that the only new fit to print is bad news. Ok, so I don’t know if that is an old adage, but it is true. Todd spent nearly 10 years in the news media and it’s always bad news. Laura worked with  an investigative reporter in Boston for a while and it was always bad news. It’s about ratings and America’s fascination with failure. Now it is time to read about success and happiness and you will leave feeling good.

Plus you can share your own stories with the magazine and they might print them. Do you have children who like to write? 6-12 year olds can submit, 13-17 year olds can submit and more. It’s nice to stumble acorss someone who is really trying to change the system. Why do we need to end and start all of our days with bad news? Start to make the change with this episode.

Laura finally returned from 5 days away and while she rested, Todd talked about the GREAT people and companies she met down at Expo. He also talked candidly about being a Single dad for 5 days who had about the same batting average as Ichiro. In baseball that might be worth millions but in parenting, batting .330 sucks. What did he fail at? What did he learn? How come he struggled so much? It’s all on this edition of Parenting Unplugged Radio.